Afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays?

Published by at 4:43 pm under Common Concerns

Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

Today we’re going to ask Al-Anon members if they ever felt afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays.

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5 comments on “Afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays?”

  1. Karen says:

    I remember a whole meeting on how to deal with the holidays. The gist of it was to enjoy each day of the preparation, baking, shopping, etc. and don’t put all my expectations of a perfect day into that one day in the future. Good old ODAT! (the Al-Anon book, “One Day at a Time”).

  2. Catherine says:

    So, as Christmas came and went yesterday, this year was a bit different. I guess I should say a big eye-opener of the severity of this disease. I spent my Christmas trying to help a friend of 25 years understand the distrustful behavior, the constant manipulation, and lies don’t just affect their lives, but the ones around them as well.

    I think the biggest Christmas gift I received from last night’s show was I finally got it. As painful as the realization was, I’m not responsible for anyone else’s behavior, choices, or recovery. What I am responsible for is learning how to keep my mind, body, and spirit healthy. My first meeting will be tomorrow.

  3. maureen says:

    My daughter is an alcoholic and lives 2000 miles away. I am so sad
    as she has recently stopped communicating with me as I declined her
    request for money. She has written me vicious emails which I understand is part of the disease, but it still hurts. I looked up the meeting times
    and will try and attend next week.

  4. Pw says:

    walking on eggshells. yes. this is how I feel.

  5. JB says:

    I was always afraid to upset my husband and ruin the holidays for everyone. It was my responsiblity to make sure everything went well for everyone. I now know that the only person I am responsible for is me. I cannot make anyone happy. I am not responsible for anyone else’s behavior. Thank goodness!

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