Afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays?

Published by at 4:43 pm under Common Concerns

Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

Today we’re going to ask Al-Anon members if they ever felt afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays.

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4 comments on “Afraid to upset a loved one during the holidays?”

  1. Catherine says:

    So, as Christmas came and went yesterday, this year was a bit different. I guess I should say a big eye-opener of the severity of this disease. I spent my Christmas trying to help a friend of 25 years understand the distrustful behavior, the constant manipulation, and lies don’t just affect their lives, but the ones around them as well.

    I think the biggest Christmas gift I received from last night’s show was I finally got it. As painful as the realization was, I’m not responsible for anyone else’s behavior, choices, or recovery. What I am responsible for is learning how to keep my mind, body, and spirit healthy. My first meeting will be tomorrow.

  2. maureen says:

    My daughter is an alcoholic and lives 2000 miles away. I am so sad
    as she has recently stopped communicating with me as I declined her
    request for money. She has written me vicious emails which I understand is part of the disease, but it still hurts. I looked up the meeting times
    and will try and attend next week.

  3. Pw says:

    walking on eggshells. yes. this is how I feel.

  4. JB says:

    I was always afraid to upset my husband and ruin the holidays for everyone. It was my responsiblity to make sure everything went well for everyone. I now know that the only person I am responsible for is me. I cannot make anyone happy. I am not responsible for anyone else’s behavior. Thank goodness!

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