Interview with an Al-Anon member about her experiences dealing with family members’ alcoholism

Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery from Al-Anon Family Groups. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

This podcast features an interview with an anonymous Al-Anon member who shares about her experiences in dealing with alcoholism in loved ones, and how Al-Anon helped.

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5 comments on “Interview with an Al-Anon member about her experiences dealing with family members’ alcoholism”

  1. Stephen says:

    I was married for 25 years. We had so many problems that alcohol was overlooked. The shadow of accidents to the alcoholic and deaths in our immediate family shook us, but kept the addiction problems covered up.

    I implemented understanding my alcoholic and encouraging her, which has had the effect of increasing her guilt and shame–something I never expected. She no longer keeps in contact. I didn’t expect my recovery to separate us. I would like to go back to enabling, but that door is now shut to me.

    We have three children and thanks to taking home the Al-Anon Traditions they have grown into healthy, participating adults. Our son, who discovered he had the same addiction dis-ease, went into recovery without fully committing himself to picking up a drink. I am hugely relieved. I am thankful to Al-Anon, the Twelve Steps, and every one who brought the message of recovery this far.

    My decision is to continue to share my experience, strength and hope so I can recover from living with and being affected by the compulsive, obsessive disease of alcoholism. I hope others will know they are not alone when I keep coming back.

    I come because I am working towards getting well and I am worth being well with love for and to myself and to have healthy, happy relationships with people, places, and things and of course my Higher Power, whom I love and He loves me.

  2. Tressa says:

    My husband of 42 years is an alcoholic–in denial, of course. He is either stumbling drunk or hungover, no in-between. I’ve lived with his drinking for more than 20 years. Doctors have told him he’s sick, but he says he just fires that doctor.

    We almost separated 15 years ago due to his drinking. I’m afraid if I leave him he will drink himself to death, which he is already doing. Our kids don’t like being around him. They are older, both in their 30s, and they’ve seen the problem most of their lives. With that being said, I don’t get to see them as I would like.

    Sometimes I think the easiest way out is to just die, but I don’t want my kids and grandchildren to be without me.

    I love him, but hate him. We are retired and that’s all he does is drink, or he’s hungover.

  3. Margaret says:

    Thank you for the podcast. Useful to listen to this. I hear so many things I can identify with. I am planning to find and attend a local Al Anon meeting.

  4. Loren says:

    My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married 26 years. He lost his father at age 49, brother at age 47 – who just both happened to drink every day. I really thought losing his brother last year would have scared him into quitting. He is 46.

    Our oldest son is getting married next year. I am afraid he will not live to see it. He is drinking and driving every day and I just don’t know what to do. We can’t afford to live separately now. As much as I want a divorce, we have a 17 and 11-year-old still at home. I just can’t hang on much longer. He is not the same person I married.

    My father died of alcoholism. I can’t stand to be around it. Thankfully he doesn’t get violent or angry. He just acts goofy, then falls asleep. Recently he has left the oven on. I don’t trust him alone or with my kids.

    He seems to be moving backwards in age. He knows better than to drink and drive, but says the power over him to drink is so strong. I have hatred for this disease and get very angry. Rage comes out and I want to hit, scream and now I just want out.

    He will not go to A.A. I don’t think I am the one with the drinking problem, so I don’t know why I should go if he is not going to get better.

  5. Lauren says:

    I stumbled across this podcast while looking for information on what Al-Anon is and how it might help me. I appreciate so much hearing Julie’s story. I’m feeling hopeful that however this all turns out perhaps even if my husband doesn’t seek the help he needs, I’ve found some help for myself. Looking forward now to my first meeting on Friday and hopeful I will find the same support and acceptance Julie described. Thank you.

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