Keeping the focus on myself

Published by at 9:17 am under Common Concerns

Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery from Al-Anon Family Groups. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

Today we’re going to ask Al-Anon members what it means to them when they hear the suggestion to keep the focus on themselves, and not on the problem drinker in their life.

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3 comments on “Keeping the focus on myself”

  1. Tara says:

    I have not been keeping the focus on myself. I have felt very sick. I was attending Al-Anon and stopped during my second pregnancy. I have not found the time to get to a meeting. However, I need to and will. I feel unmanageable. I am supposed to have a good weekend visiting my family this weekend and I don’t want to focus on the alcoholic and what he is doing. I need to surrender. This podcast has definitely helped.

  2. Debra says:

    I am so grateful for this podcast. I felt like I was in a black hole this morning, and I needed this loving reminder that I am the one who put me in the hole, and I am the only one who can climb out. One step at a time, the 12 Step ladder of Al-Anon has given me tools to reach up and out. No matter what my spouse chooses.

    The darker it gets, the more crucial my self-care. All of my controlling, helping, enabling, secret keeping, even praying. It does no good. I must take care of me and let go. Deep breath. I was going to spend Christmas Eve alone feeling sorry for my self, frozen with fear and pain. I’m not now. Thank you so much.

  3. Kathy says:

    This was a very good podcast for me. I’m still building up the courage to focus more on myself instead of trying to fix everybody else. Hopefully I will find an Al-Anon group that works for me.

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