Nov 06 2013

Using Step Eleven

Published by at 10:13 am under Using the Steps

“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”

Welcome to Using Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps in Our Personal Lives from Al-Anon Family Groups. This is a series of podcasts to discuss how Al-Anon members use the basic principles of Al-Anon.

Today we’re going to ask Al-Anon members how they used StepĀ Eleven to help them overcome the impacts of a loved one’s drinking.

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4 comments on “Using Step Eleven”

  1. Nicole says:

    Thank you for sharing. I feel better with this Step as a tool that I can use to sort out if I am at fault and need to apologize, or am I just reluctant to accept how others are and no amount of apologies for taking care of myself will change insane, hurtful behavior. Praying to my God is a start to sort it out. Thank you.

  2. J says:

    “His will for us” means He has a plan for me, I have a purpose. What a comfort in times of despair.

  3. Nancy L says:

    Wow, thanks so very much for this podcast.

    My spiritual program has evolved over the past 21 years in Al-Anon — which means what? It means that there are many ebbs and flows. As I grow, I change. When I first started working the program, I was horrified. What? No end? No 6 weeks to better health?

    Working these Steps means a lifetime practice, just as a healthy lifestyle includes daily healthy choices.

    The beauty of this Step is it is a continual practice. As I evolve, my qualifiers have gone in their own paths. My parents passed, my sibling and I are estranged, and my husband enjoys the continual sobriety of 22 years. Sounds good, right? Problems don’t go away with death or sobriety.

    My need for the program is ever bigger. My sober husband is also dealing with a chronic illness. His issues require a lot of efforts on my part. I’m not the caretaker—but I am the caregiver.

    Applying the 11th Step on a daily basis means I choose to take the time to connect, refill my spirit, and regain focus. Without constant application of the program, I’d be in big trouble.

    Because there are no similar support systems for chronic, undiagnosed, yet disabled adults, and no tangible help, I cling to the program. My life depends on it.

    So grateful to return to these pages and find this wonderful set of podcasts.

  4. Louise G says:

    For me the words, “as we understood Him,” were the key to finally being comfortable with a Higher Power. I have always appreciated the fact that we do not discuss religion in our meetings. I don’t have to explain what I believe in to anyone. For me it’s just important that I believe.

    My spiritual program is pretty simple. I am not good at formal prayers, but I talk to my Higher Power often during the day and meditation is just not something I can do. I start my day by saying, “Good morning, God. What are we doing today?” It reminds me that I am no longer in charge and that I am never alone.

    The hardest part of this Step for me was following His will, until an AA friend suggested that if I had made a decision and was calm, then it was God’s will or the next right thing for me–If I had made the decision, but found myself a few days later still rolling it around in my head, trying to figure it out, that I was trying to force my will, again (ugh). This simple awareness works for me.

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